Banish This 3 Letter Word

Posted on: June 26, 2012 Category: Self Mastery

I am eager to share something I have discovered in the past few days. I am certain that I have found a word that we will ALL benefit from if we remove it from our everyday conversations. Removing this word will lead to increased happiness, clarity and self-love.

Do you feel overwhelmed, stressed or doubtful at times?

If so, then I know that you WILL gain immense benefit from reading this article!

Let’s get to it – the 3 letter word is ‘TRY’. Sound familiar?

Many people use the word ‘try’ in response to requests that they do not want to do. For example – I’ll try to find time to do this. I’ll try to do my best. I’ll try to go to your party. The list goes on…

When you say ‘try’, you do not hold clarity to what you want to achieve. The word ‘try’ is filled with doubt and uncertainty. When you use the word ‘try’, you are essentially saying “I will attempt, but whatever the outcome is – I don’t really mind. I have embraced the possibility of failure, and if my attempt leads to failure, then so be it.” Well, if you expect failure, then according to Universal Laws, failure will be delivered to you.

So many people use the word ‘try’, when what they really mean is ‘no’.

They may be afraid of hurting someone’s feelings if they say no. The reality is, so many people would appreciate and benefit from you saying “no”, instead of you giving a vague, foggy, uncertain answer! Saying ‘no’ gives the person you are talking to a clear view of where you are heading and what your opinions are, and they will respect you for it!

Having clarity and letting other people understand what you believe in will definitely decrease your stress and doubt. When you are doing the things you do because you truly love it and because you truly want to, you are bound to be blissful.

Confession time – I am guilty for using this word, but I am definitely weeding it out of my everyday conversations.

Here’s a challenge – let’s all stop using this 3 letter word. Say yes or say no. Do or do not. There is no try!

Action step:

1. Replace the word ‘try’ with will/can/yes/no, or just eliminate it! (Example: I will try to do this. –> I will (or will not) do this.)

2. When you catch yourself saying it, don’t worry – all is well! Just rephrase your sentence, without the word ‘try’ in it!

3. Once you do this, report back! Please let me know how you feel – do you feel less stressed, more freedom, much happier?

In the comments below, let me know – do you use this 3 letter word a lot? If you have already removed it from your daily conversations, how do you feel? Are there any other words or phrases that you think we will benefit from if we remove them from our daily conversations? Please do share – I’d love to hear from you!

And if you found this article useful, please share/tweet/like it!

Thank you for reading and sharing.

Lots of love,
Jia Ni

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  1. brittni says:

    What a great article. I love this quote, “So many people use the word ‘try’, when what they really mean is ‘no’.” So true! I have used this three letter word myself in the past, but make a conscience effort now not to say ‘try’. Thanks for the reminder.

  2. Phyllis says:

    Love this – thank you for the reminder. I am definitely one to use “try,” most often instead of “no.” And you’re right – it’s all about not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings. The truth is, though, lack of clarity is hurtful, NOT a clear, truthful, “no.”

    I would also add “hope” to this. “I hope to do….” or “I hope X happens.” Instead – “I’m (not) going to do…” or “I will make X happen!”

    • Jia Ni says:

      YES! I 100% agree with everything you say – lack of clarity is more hurtful especially when you leave the other person hanging in a space with no clear direction! Thank you for your thoughts Phyllis. :) xo

  3. jack says:

    Hello,jui….. my example is confusing can’t with won’t,try it sometime and see.
    Nice post,thank you.

  4. Hi, Jia Ni! I’ve been eliminating the word “try” from my vocabulary. I agree with you about how it lacks certainty and clarity. It implies not really being committed to what you say you’re going to do. It lacks power. Another word that lacks power is the word “hope” when it’s used in sentences like, “I hope to be successful” or “I hope this works out.”

    • Jia Ni says:

      Hey Leanne! It is always great to see you here again! Mmhmm, I’m with you on that too – don’t hope to do something, just DO it! Don’t hope that something will work out – just do your work and KNOW that it will! Thank you for sharing your thoughts love! :) x

  5. Chelsea Bond says:

    Fabulous article! I never realized it but I have a hesitation and a different tone of voice when I say I’ll “try” to do something. I feel like it goes in the bin with “want” and “wish”. Not that it isn’t ok to want or wish something either, but it seems to get grouped into the same emotions of expecting something to happen vs. going for yours and making it happen. I will absolutely pay much more attention to “try” and replace it with the certainty a conversation deserves –even if it’s the answer they don’t want to hear!

    • Jia Ni says:

      Thank you Chelsea!! Yes, I definitely understand what you are saying with the different tone of voice as well. Every time I say that *3 letter word* I always lower my tone and usually have a sense of unwillingness. :P Yup, give people YOUR true answer, even if it isn’t what they want to hear – because you should always always place your sense of happiness above everything else!! ALWAYS! So important. :) xo

  6. Cathy Sykora says:

    I try not to say try! Just teasing…I find it empowering to withhold try from my vocabulary. It does have an effect on what we expect from ourselves.

  7. But at some point this 3 letter word also has a powerful meaning. It provokes pride, contains hope and makes a courage. In here (where I live) were the modesty can somehow become humbleness, “try” gives a lot meaning.
    Anyway, I enjoyed your beautiful writing. Thanks

  8. Renee says:

    Never thought of try that way but it makes sense since we should be true to our word and if our word is iffy then so is what we put out in the world. Thanks you for the moment clarity!

  9. Jeff says:

    Totally agree with what you say, especially when you don’t want to disapoint your friends, so you will say you will try but you end up with doing nothing.

  10. rachmitch says:

    I found you today through MindBodyGreen. I love the article you wrote for them, as I also love this article. You are a lovely writer. Thank-you for sharing your positive energy!

  11. Deb says:

    What a great moment of awareness! Thank you! I will (try) do this! ;-)

  12. Lori says:

    I can do this!!!

  13. GiVi says:

    I had this principle demonstrated, embarrassingly, by a great guest lecturer at school. He said try to pick up your laptops. go ahead try. I hesitated, then I lifted my notebook from the desk and set it back down, feeling like a tool. And his response was: See, you didn’t try to pick up your laptop. you DID it. you can do something and it can backfire, but to try is to make an actual effort to DO. without that effort, try is but a 3 letter word.” It resonated with me, and even more so with the reading of this article. Thanks Jia.