8 Lessons from a Life Detox

Posted on: October 2, 2012 Category: Self Mastery

Last month (September 2012), I embarked on a journey of detoxing.

I did it because I felt it was time for me to take responsibility of my life – no more excuses. To me, that meant being responsible for my actions, thoughts and behavioural patterns that were creating my reality and my future.

September was a wild ride.

I knew the shizzle was going to surface, I just didn’t know how much and how fast was going to come up. Everything shifted so fast.

I must admit that I adore emerging out of times like this. When I’m in the middle of the chaos, I also have to admit I’m not my best self. :)

But when all of it settles down… it’s indescribable – it’s like a clear day after a storm.

Everything makes sense, everything had to happen for a purpose, and everything was the way it is because it just is – and I wouldn’t ask for anything to change.

And thus, I present you my lessons. Things I’ve learnt – in hope that you will walk away with new insights and learn from my journey without having to go through them.


1. You set the standards for your life.

How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. What you put up with is what you end up with. Are you putting up with toxic relationships or negative self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours? How do you talk to yourself when you look into the mirror?

Here’s how – I deeply and completely love and accept you. You are freakin’ amazing and you are the BEST/BOMB-DIGGITY/AWESOME POSSUM. (Because you are.)

You are your best investment, capiche?

2. In every given moment, you have a choice.

In any moment, free will is yours.

That means, in any situation – you get to walk away feeling thankful and smiling for what has happened; or you can be ungrateful and curse for what has not happened. In any given moment, you get to choose to learn from your experience, and emerge stronger and brighter; or you can dwell in guilt and self-pity, and scare away the lovely people around you with your negative energy.

Okay, you may not be in your ideal situation, everything around you seems dark, sad and gloomy. Bring sparkles! Bring glitter! Bring your love and light into places like this. You’ll find that people everywhere are open to fun and laughter – all they’re waiting for is someone to start. Be the fire-starter. Be the miracle.

3. Self-love is the most important love of all.

Exercise your self-love muscle. “Me-time” is tres important. You cannot be of highest service to the world if you are not functioning at your highest capacity.

The definition of “Me-time” differs for everyone. For me, it means meditating, hanging out in nature, embracing my inner child, yoga, healthy boundaries, making green drinks.

What does me-time mean to you?

Make time for love – SELF LOVE!

4. If it isn’t a “Hell-YEAH!”, then perhaps it’s a “Sorry, but no”.

You are not obliged to do anything for anyone but yourself. If it’s going to eat away at your soul, if it doesn’t jive with your values and beliefs, if doesn’t make you go HELL YEAH and fist-pump, if it doesn’t lift you higher and light up your soul fire… then perhaps it’s “Sorry, but No“.

Above all, don’t commit yourself to doing something that is not your TRUTH – because that is the surefire way to burnout, fatigue, and commit soul-suicide.

5. The only way is forward.

You can’t move towards your future if you live in the past. You can’t start a new chapter in your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Face forward, and keep marching-dancing-twirling-skipping towards where you want to be.

Learn your lessons, then move on. Cherish and dwell in beautiful positive memories, but release and let go(d) of heartbreaking ones.

6. Ask for help.

Because often, these forms of help are gifts bestowed upon us. Thank your friend, family, God, the Universe, the world.

Receive gifts graciously, and be truly grateful for the generous support you are provided with.

You don’t have to do everything by yourself, you know that.. Right?

7. The only constant is change.

Everything is subject to change. Change is needed for us to grow as beings, for us learn our lessons, and all in order to share our truth.

Change shall always be perceived as good. 

8. Keep smiling.

Because you are exactly where you need to be.

Your journey is unfolding exactly as it should be.

No-where better to be.. than now-here.


I hope you had a great September. In one word, how would you summarize YOUR September? Mine was… transformational. (To say the least!)


And let us welcome a wondrous October, shall we? :)


Love & Light,
Jia Ni

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  1. Maddison says:

    Really great tips, my favourite is the self-love, and truly believe it is a muscle like everything else we use and we have to build that muscle to build up some self-worth. Great work on finishing the detox!

    • Jia Ni says:

      Thank you, Maddison!! :) Yes, self-worth is so important. It’s the magnet to attracting abundance. Glad you enjoyed them. Always lovely to see you here!! xxx

  2. Jess says:

    Your detox September is so inspiring! I’ve been learning to bite my tongue alot and to just think of something positve to say rather than focusing on the negative, I’ve also learnt to apply this to myself. I started daily affirmations and actually got out a pen and paper and wrote down my goals & what I’d like to do if we lived in a limitless world. I wrote down things I wanted to do as a child, it was so much fun using my imagination like a little kid! It’s so empowering once you realise you can manifest whatever you want :) My business has boomed so much more since then. I love how there are so many inspirational blogs at the moment, it’s awesome! So thankyou! Big hugs being sent your way! xo

    • Jia Ni says:

      That’s so lovely Jess!! :) Thank you so much for sharing.
      Thank you for dropping by, so lovely to see you here.
      Big love back atcha!


  3. Oh I LOVE your life lessons Jia Ni! And in this day and age of information overload, a good healthy detox is always a good way to reset and remember what’s important.

    And I love how something is in the air when it comes to resetting! I just got back from a short 3 day technology fast myself which was MUCH needed and shared 3 lessons from the trails if you want to check them out!


  4. Rebecca says:

    Loooooooove this! Amazing tips and insights, and your writing rocks! Consider it bookmarked :) I can see myself coming back to this post again and again.