Living with an Open Heart

Posted on: August 21, 2012 Category: Self Mastery

I used to think that if I gave out my love to people, I was the weak one.

If I told someone ‘I love you’, I was vulnerable.

And if I fell in love, then I was screwed because I was open and unprotected from hurt and heartbreak.

As a result, I lived with a closed heart. I lived in fear that the more love I gave, the less love I would have for myself.

It felt like I had a love bank. If I withdrew love and loved others, I would eventually end up with no more love, or worse – a love deficit.

I wouldn’t allow anyone into my life. When people told me they loved me, I would question their motives. Me and my closed heart were both trapped in the illusion of lack and fear.

I’m not sure when the shift happened, but it definitely happened when I least expected it. This year, something within me was screaming and shrieking. It made me look around and really contemplate where I was heading – I was heading down a path I didn’t want to end up at, and I feel so grateful I was shocked out of this limiting belief in time of need.

I used to think that people who said ‘I love you’ to others were weak. But now I know that they are the courageous ones. They are the ones who are strong. They are the ones who are really living.

To live with an open heart, to live with vulnerability, takes so much strength and courage. To tell someone you love them, takes a huge leap of faith.

“I love you. And it doesn’t matter if you love me back, or not. But you are amazing, and loving you makes me happy. So I will love you regardless.”

To come from a place of no expectation for recruited love; to accept a person for all of them (not just their greatness but their imperfections as well); to be able to give this way – is to give love unconditionally. And isn’t unconditional love is the greatest love of all?

Soon, I realized that saying ‘I love you’ didn’t give the phrase less value – saying it with insincerity and ingenuity does. So why hold back the genuine love?

It is not un-recruited love that we should be fear, but the missing out of breathtaking love that we should be afraid of.

When you put out genuine, unconditional love out into the world, you dissipate fear. You step into your light and you allow yourself to shine in your own truth. In doing so, you allow and give others the permission to do the same. Darkness cannot remove darkness, only light can. Fear cannot remove fear, only love can.

To love and be loved – isn’t that what we are all here for?

Marianne Williamson once said, “Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth.”

If someone touches your heart,
If there is someone you cherish,
If someone has done you a service,
If someone brightens up your day or brings a smile to your face,
Then tell them you love them – be it through your words or actions.

Remember that we are all One, and we all come from a source of Love. There is an infinite source of love. In fact, the more love you give out, the better this world will be, and the more you are bound to receive.

Above all – Let love guide you, and let yourself live in a place of love abundance. Be free to love, and know that there is more love where that came from.

Live with an open heart.

You are loved, and very much so.

And to those of you who love courageously and unconditionally – I raise my glass (of green juice) to you.

You are amazing.

As always, please like/tweet/share/spread the love if this message resonated with you.

All my love,
Jia Ni

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  1. Love, love, love! <3

    I recently started reading both A Course in Miracles and Spirit Junkie, so I am totally on a love over fear kick right now! Choosing love in all situations makes life so much more enjoyable, not to mention you reap what you sow. Thanks so much for sharing, girly!

    • Jia Ni says:

      Linds!! You are freaking amazing – I’ve been eyeing ACIM but it hasn’t really called out to me (yet). :) Ah, I have to read Spirit Junkie asap too. GO YOU! Living this way has been such a life changing experience for me, and the ease and flow is amazing. Thanks for your beautiful comment lovely! xxx

  2. Kate says:

    Such a beautiful post Jia Ni!

  3. Amelia says:

    I definitely try to keep in mind that love is not up to depletion. Taking baby steps :)

  4. Rebecca says:

    beautiful post girl! living with an open, free heart is an awesome thing x

  5. Rebecca says:

    beautiful post girl! living with an open, free heart is an awesome thing xx

  6. Hi darling! I just wanted to stop by and say how impressed and excited I am for you and all you have accomplished. You are such an inspiration and too, too amazing! xoxo

  7. Tricia Salata says:

    Thanks for this!

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