Are your business goals driven by Ego or Desire?

Posted on: March 3, 2017 Category: Business & Entrepreneurship

Are your business goals driven by ego or desire?

Ever feel disconnected or unaligned with some of your business goals?

Have you considered whether your goals stem from a place of ego vs. Spirit and desire?

Everyone I’ve ever met in my coaching practice desires to do good work that positively influences the world.

However, unconsciously, sometimes our goals are driven by our ego.

Let’s dive into how to discern between ego-driven goals and desire-led goals!

Ego-driven goals usually …

  • Focused on the external without DEPTH
  • What you think you *should* be aiming for
  • The next ‘logical’ step for you and where you are in your business (even if you’re not genuinely excited or connected to it)
  • Blindly fuelled by what other people have created (and thinking therefore you should create it too)
  • Stemming from comparing energy
  • Involves disempowerment – placing your power outside yourself
  • Focused on the outcome to give you a sense of pride, accomplishment, worth, companionship or something else
  • Changes constantly through time, trends, seasons, and other outside circumstances.
  • Involves a lot of pushing energy that may lead to fatigue and burn out

The similarity in ego-driven goals is that we place our power outside of ourselves – whether in a false identity or expectation we’ve created in our minds or giving our power away to others.

Desire-led goals are usually …

  • What you feel deeply you are meant for/meant to experience (even if it’s HUGE or ‘silly’)
  • Inspired and soul-driven
  • Feel easeful and the natural next step for you
  • Involving a lot more flow
  • Deeply personal and individual – your desire driven goals will look completely different to someone else’s desire driven goals!
  • Internally led – these goals tend to call out to LEAD us towards them (even if we may deny the calling for awhile it doesn’t go away! ;)
  • Persistent – these goals tend to stick and stay there even if we try to talk ourselves out of it, convince ourselves we don’t need it etc.
  • Not always about the form/what it looks like – and more about the experience of who you will be when you are able to create the goal

What can we do?

The most powerful thing you can do as a business owner is get back in your own power when it comes to your business goals and practicing discernment when it comes to your goal setting practice.

A Business Driven by Desire & Spirit-led Goals

When I first started out, I remember this HUGE desire to start coaching clients on a 1:1 basis (in a high end package and large container).

I shared it with my coach at the time – who shared it was better for me to focus on other projects like smaller courses and products – as high-end private clients tend to come after you’ve been in business or out in this online world for awhile!

I was also 19 then – and didn’t have much ‘life experience’ to coach on…

But that nagging desire was that and wouldn’t go away!

So I decided to do it my own way and opened up my calendar for 2 private coaching clients at $3,500 packages.

Within a week of declaring this desire to serve 2 clients …

I booked one beautiful client who I absolutely adored working with.
The next signed up to work with me within the next 30 days.
I was ecstatic that I finally was doing what I knew I was meant for – I absolutely loved what I had created in my business.

On the other hand, I also recall chasing those external things I thought I wanted.

I kept travelling even though I knew I desired to start nesting at home.
I over-invested in programs and courses even though I knew it was time to look for different (more aligned) mentor.
I said ‘Yes’ when I knew it was time for me to lovingly say ‘No’.

This led to burning out 2 years ago, finding myself in an externally successful business that didn’t feel aligned internally.

I questioned what I had created …

It took lots of deep dives, journalling sessions and inquiry – and today I’m so happy to share that this experience has taught me how to discern beautifully between goals that nourish me and those that don’t.

When we choose desire driven goals – it doesn’t mean life is a piece of cake and a walk in the park. There’s still challenges that we may face, however when we are led by Desire there is also a lot more ease and grace in our formula.

Let’s Set Business Goals that Deeply NOURISH You

I’m holding a FREE workshop on Money & Income Goal Setting and I’d love for you to join me.

We’ll be going through each of your goals and ensuring they truly align with what you truly desire – and you’ll walk away with the important skill of discernment.

We’ll also be setting goals together that are based in Spirit and Desire (vs. ego), so that your business goals feel authentic, inspired, and easeful!

I’ll also share a process on how you can let go of those ego-driven goals (that aren’t grounded in reality, gets you stuck in spinning and so on) so that you can step back into 100% of your own power when it comes to you and your business!

When we are in this space we easily create and experience our goals – whether it’s related to our offerings, clients, sales, income or the decisions we choose to make with our time, money and other resources.

You’ll walk away knowing exactly how to set goals that you love, create a business that aligns with you, and make future decisions from a place of ease and power. :-)

See you there!

Much love,

PS: Here’s the link to join the Money & Income Goal Setting Workshop. If you’re ready to create business goals you love (and experience them!), you’ll want to be there… ;)

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Manifesting My Dream Home

Posted on: February 22, 2017 Category: Lifestyle/ Self Mastery

Manifesting my dream home

At the end of 2016, my man and I sat down for our annual visioning session. (Me with a mega-watt smile, him more reluctantly. Hehe.)

What it involves: We write, create, and share our individual visions for the year + beyond – as well as co-create our shared/couple’s vision together. (Game changing – highly recommend regular visioning sessions with your partner.)

During this process on that fine December afternoon, the energy of our dream home emerged beautifully.

Naturally, organically, and oh-so distinctively.

Little did we know that, within 2 weeks, she would be ours.

Our gorgeous dream home with ocean views… (and of course, dogs allowed)!;)

A little story of how it all came to be…

I always loved being by the sea.

For some reason, the seaside always feels like home.

(Growing up in the concrete jungle of KL, I never really understood why. To be honest, I still don’t. I’ve learnt to just embrace it!)

My love for the ocean grew exponentially when I moved to Australia almost 10 years ago.

If you’ve seen Australian beaches, I think you would understand why!

They’re something out of this world:

The fine white sand.
The most delicious sun.
The most refreshing, crystal clear turquoise waters.

Living by the beach became a vision of mine.

Creating and living my vision is something that I have a huge thing for. It’s a bit of an obsession! :P  It’s something I coach my clients through every single day, and when vision turns to reality … it’s really magical!

There’s a good story behind every good manifestation – and I’ll share the story of exactly how we manifested our dream home in an upcoming post (keep an eye out)!

Today, I’m here to share the very simple formula we used to make our dreams a reality.

Fortune favours the clear-minded.

During our visioning sesh, we got super clear on what we wanted: brand new, with balcony, ocean views, pets allowed, lots of natural light, dedicated study room, lots of space, fits our price range etc. I even had marble bench tops in the list! (I thought it was a big of a fantasy – but guess what, marble bench tops was exactly what the Universe delivered too!)

Create a vision with soul (and stick to it).

While we had a few options show up in the interim they didn’t fit the vision (see step 1). We chose to stick to our list – and we ultimately got exactly what we desired! Oh, goals with soul are much more easeful! Ahhh.

Take action.

We drove to different beaches in Sydney, laid on the sands of Bondi/Manly/every beach you could think of to try on for size, lived like a local for the day… We scheduled viewings, reached out to different agents, and so on! Actions allows you to meet the Universe half way!

Follow through with trust.

When we found the apartment that ticked all our boxes, we followed through. We made the decision to say ‘yes!’ (quickly) and went through with it (even if there were all kinds of nerves and butterflies and OMG moments)! There’s a huge element of trust that we made the right decision!

Whatever your dream is… if you can dream it you can create a version of it in your life.

Hold your vision close to you, and know that if it’s a goal/dream/vision with soul – it is inevitable that you will receive it.

This year truly brings with it a bountiful energy of exciting, new possibilities. Along with it, a huge element of trusting.

Trusting in your power.
You are a powerful Creator.

Trusting in the speed at which Life is flowing right now.
You are exactly where you need to be right now.

Trusting in yourself.
You are making the right decisions.

Jia Ni x

Did you miss last week’s post? Read it here: How to Stop Procrastinating in Your Business

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How to Stop Procrastinating in Your Business

Posted on: February 7, 2017 Category: Business & Entrepreneurship/ For Coaches

How to Stop Procastinating in Your Business

One of my clients asked me during a coaching session, ‘I procrastinated and didn’t get a lot done this week. How do you avoid procrastinating?’

What a great question!

In business, we don’t always have conventional deadlines. Being able to set our own deadlines and manage ourselves becomes a really essential trait to have as an entrepreneur who’s here to create impact and do what you love for a living.

I could hear my client feeling frustrated at herself. And guilty. That she didn’t get much done because she ‘got stuck procrastinating’. Instead of getting work done, her hours were spent scrolling mindlessly on Facebook/Instagram, watching TV, reading and ‘lazing around’.

(Sometimes when we resist work, it’s also burn out/fatigue manifesting or even not setting realistic and achievable goals for ourselves and thereby setting ourselves up for failure – however in this case, we’ll be focusing on getting through pure resistance from procrastination).

Note: PUSHING through procrastination like it’s a block to be busted with sheer will and force isn’t what I recommend. It *might* work temporarily, but it can also lead to exhaustion and feeling depleted. We’ve all been there, right?

Exploring Your Idea on Discipline (& Obedience)

When we didn’t get our work done in school, our parents/teachers would discipline us. When we weren’t performing optimally (or slacking off ;), we would get disciplined as children. Exploring your ideas around ‘discipline’ can provide us some great insight here.

Did you have a militaristic experience around discipline/being disciplined?
Were you taught to be good/follow the rules for someone else other than you?

When we rebel against discipline in our later life, this can manifest in our business as procrastination (or ‘laziness’ from resistance).

A New Perspective on Discipline

Let’s choose a new perspective around discipline.

Consider Discipline as something you ‘do’ for yourself – not your parent/teacher/coach/spouse.

Consider Discipline as something that is –

Self loving.
Self nurturing.
In integrity.

Pain Vs. Pleasure

We may tend to avoid/procrastinate when it comes to tasks in our business when it seems too much/too daunting for us. We think that it’s more pleasurable to avoid. Yes – even if we may suffer from pangs of guilt – it seems just easier than confronting what we’re avoiding/numbing against/procrastinating on.

My favourite way to procrastinate (yes … even to this date!) is having a lie down, reading a book, and ‘relaxing’ (it’s in apostrophes because I can’t really relax knowing I’m avoiding something! ;)

One day, everything shifted.

I realised being able to have a lie down, reading, and truly relaxing – knowing that I’ve completed what I required and told myself I would today – was FAR more pleasurable and peaceful. On top of that, feeling IN INTEGRITY (which is one of my core values!) that I stayed true to my word strengthened my confidence in myself – and my ability to relax. 😉

AND – feeling OUT of integrity that I didn’t do what I promised myself I would was more painful.

How can you shift your perspective around what is truly painful and pleasurable when it comes to taking action in your business (even if there’s resistance)? A shift in perspective is often all it takes to shift our energy!

As we worked on this together, my client relaxed into a new paradigm about discipline and moving through procrastination. Later on she reported having her most productive day in weeks! Incredible!!

How will you move through procrastination?

Develop a plan so you know exactly how to respond when you find yourself in that space!

Are you ready to be driven by inspiration & feel energised in your business?

I’ve created an audio training just for you.

Sometimes we might feel a little discouraged in business (whether as a result or procrastination – or when things aren’t going the way we want them to).

Register for free here:

Business and entrepreneurship is a long game, and what if you could turn discouragement into inspired success?

Knowing how to fuel yourself with internal drivers (and not relying on external circumstances – although those are lovely too) can help us create a long-lasting, sustainable business that is successful and here to stay.

Click here to register your place on the call now.

I know you can do it!

Much love,
Jia Ni x

Did you miss last week’s post? Read it here: The Energy of 2017

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The Energy of 2017

Posted on: February 5, 2017 Category: Self Mastery

The Energy of 2017 - Jia Ni Teo | Business CoachHey lovely,

Happy Lunar New Year!

Reading into the energy going on at the moment, there’s a collective energy of decluttering…

A refinement energy… Can you feel it? :-)

A gorgeous energy and invitation of conscious choosing in 2017.

Today – I invite us to bring a new level of questioning into our awareness.

“How can I make life more EASEFUL for me?”

(My new favourite word. EASE-FUL. Ahhhh.)

For my fellow entrepreneurs, “How can you make your business systems work better for you? More easeful?”

Take a look at your wardrobe, home, finances, business, relationships, purpose, health & lifestyle, even your vision board.

Is there anything that’s there – just occupying space?
Is there anything that’s there – that no longer sparks joy?
Is there anything that’s there – that’s calling out for refinement so that it *clicks* again?

Can you choose to let go of – and refine – those things, so that you can embrace and bring into your life more of what feels fun & supportive?

The last week has seen me choosing to let go of certain pieces in my life/business that no longer spark joy – so that I can let more of what is joyful in.

Here’s to … Letting joy lead you this 2017.

Feeling every ounce of that juicy joy in your body.

And creating an abundance of joy in your life.

Jia Ni x

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