Soul Mates

Posted on: September 18, 2012 Category: Self Mastery

Because being vulnerable is okay and totally cool, here are some heart-felt words today.

Here is my (current) understanding of what soul mates are.

Soul mates come into your life,
To give you the opportunity to notice your limits.

They inspire you to tear down the walls you’ve built that are keeping you away from your true self .
Your greatness.

They force you to grow, to expand.
To be better.

They turn your life upside down, inside out.
They make you feel so out of control, so out of your mind.
They put you in a whole new space you never knew existed.

They break your heart open, so that you can live with an open heart.
They crack your walls to let the light in, so that you can shine.
They introduce you to a whole new perspective.

They teach us that love cannot be measured,
So the question “how much do you love me” is never valid,
Because either Love is present – or it isn’t.

And you’ll know Love is present because it fills,
It lights you up.
It gives you random and frequent attacks of smiling.

Soul mates remind us that our feelings are our ultimate guides,
That when you gaze into a soul mate’s eyes,
You catch a glimpse of their soul,
And you lose track of time and experience a sense of timelessness.

A soul mate will make you realize that there aren’t any barriers to love,
Because Love is always within us.
And the greatest love is Self-love.

Soul mates teach us how to love unconditionally,
Accept others for who they are instead of trying to force change.
They’ll also teach us how to live like tomorrow may never come.

And when soul mates gaze into each other’s eyes,
There can be so much excitement, chaos,
And yet in essence – peace and safety.

People think a soul mate is a perfect fit.
They think it’s the person who finishes your sentences, who reads your mind.
They think it’s the person you ride off with in the sunset.

But sometimes a soul mate’s purpose is only to arrive, shake you up,
Show you your obstacles, your self-imposed limits,
And make you so desperate you have to change.

Sometimes a soul mate isn’t the person who agrees with everything you say,
It’s not someone who you co-exist harmoniously 24/7 with,
But one who challenges all your ideas  (fights may be involved),
and the person who forces you to be open to a whole new world.

Sometimes soul mates come into our lives just momentarily.
Sometimes they leave.
They come into our lives to allow us to realize that there is a deeper meaning to all this.
Sometimes they are not contracted to be with us forever.

And in their absence, we are forced to learn –
To live with faith, with the knowing,
That what is meant to be will be.

To learn to smile at the deliciousness of what has been,
what is, and what is yet to come.

And the ultimate thing we can do right now is to let go, surrender, and trust

The best is yet to come.

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  1. Emma says:

    This is beautiful Jia Ni, loved it! xx

  2. Oh what a beautiful post! I have goosebumps. Thank you for brightening my day and reminding me of the important things. xx

  3. cheng yau says:

    But I think soul mate is not someone that makes you realise your limit but unleash your unknown potential.

  4. Yup, that’s it. But DARN! I don’t like it when they leave. Thank you for sharing.

  5. Oh wow girl – you had me teary eyed reading this. Thinking about my boyfriend and how much he really is my soulmate on so many levels.
    You are SO right that it isn’t always easy. The very purpose of a soulmate is to help you change – and change is never easy.
    I love this post ~ so happy you wrote it ~ thank you!

  6. So beautiful Jia Ni…and such a beautifully written reminder of the teachings of the Course in Miracles that all relationships are assignments! We are simply here to love, lift each other up, and help each other grow…thank you for being a bright light in my life and a mate to MY soul!

    • Jia Ni says:

      That’s beautiful Sabrina. I haven’t read ACIM but I have ordered it and can’t wait to dig in. Thank YOU for being you, and being in my life darlin’. xx

  7. I love this, so beautifully written! And even though it is sometimes so difficult, this part
    [They come into our lives to allow us to realize that there is a deeper meaning to all this.
    Sometimes they are not contracted to be with us forever.] reminds us that we can learn so much from every person we meet during our lives, will it be years or only a shared smile, if we just keep our heart and mind open. xx

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