2016 Learnings, Shifts, Growth Opportunities & Celebrations

Posted on: January 20, 2017 Category: Self Mastery

2016 Year in Review

It’s been 5 years since I’ve been blogging and coaching, and since 2012 I’ve loved wrapping up the year with a year in review (also, 2014 & 2015).

I find it really fun (and quite enlightening) to read back on these posts and see what I’ve integrated over the years. I hope wherever you’re at, this post gives you inspiration and insight to your current journey!

Coming Full Circle… 

During a healing session I received this week, I was told that I’ve integrated the teaching, medicine and lessons from my guides (and new ones are coming through – bringing new teachings, opportunities, and learnings)! In 2016, lots of things felt like they’ve come full circle, things that I’ve been trying to ‘figure out’ for years suddenly clicked & made total sense. :-)

Let’s dive in!

My words for 2016 // Generosity, Inner Peace, Love

Choosing word/s for the year is always a intuitive visioning + body sense process…

Each word I chose for 2016 felt like it struck a chord deep within me (and gave me goosebumps every time I tuned in) – and looking back, the year absolutely embodied the energy of inner peace, generosity and love. More below!

1 // Self Trust

Trusting myself – first and foremost, and finally – has opened up a whole new way of being for me. Of course I knew that ‘I trust myself’, but 2016 marked the year where a deeper sense of self trust emerged. I trusted me before others, and I trusted myself with the final say when decision making. I felt less conflicted and swayed by other people’s opinions. I trusted myself to let how I feel, my intuition, my vision – lead all of my decisions in 2016.

It’s changed the way I coach clients, too! One of the big skills I now incorporate into every coaching session with my client is building this self-trust muscle. The result? They are able to make incredible, heart-led decisions in their businesses on their own between sessions! How does it get more empowering than that? 😉

2 // Dismantling the barrier

I confess that I used to let admiration and respect lead to placing someone on a pedestal. In 2016 I really ‘got it’ that when we place someone on a pedestal – the only way they can go is down.

Because no one is perfect. Flaws are human. And when we put someone on a pedestal we see them as perfect – inhuman – they can do no wrong. Until they do. And then the awe and admiration immediately turns to anger, disappointment or disgust – or a combination of other negative emotions!

Are you putting someone on a pedestal in your romantic relationship, with coaches/mentors, friendships or elsewhere? Here’s to us dismantling the barriers, dropping the veils of illusion, and just seeing one another as normal (fellow) human beings.

3 // Deep communication

At the start of 2016 I felt deeply that one of my big lessons for the year was to be able to communication deeply with my beloved. And that was exactly what I received throughout 2016 …

I learnt to communicate my needs (even if it felt vulnerable and illogical and made me go ‘what am I even thinking?’), my expectations without attachment of him fulfilling them (… still a work in progress!), and embracing direct communication without the hinting/beating around the bush/why have you not read my ‘subtle’ body language and signals act.

Much easier! That said, deep DEEP appreciation that partnership/communication is a two-way street, and my love and I both are committed to doing our very best, every moment. I love commitment, and love, and acceptance. And dreaming, visioning, co-creating our life together. We even did a little 2017 vision and goal setting session together over the Christmas break – so powerful!

Side note: A wonderful client also introduced the book Attached to me which taught me all about attachment styles. Also really eye-opening read for me when it came to communicating with others (especially if they’ve got a different attachment style).

4 // Embracing minimalism & investing in quality

I’m one of those people who could look for the ‘perfect’ pair of shoes for 2-3 months over multiple shopping day trips before settling on a pair. When I was a little girl and my shoes needed to be replaced, my mum would bring me to shop after shop filled with at least 20-30 different pairs/options of shoes in each store – and after looking at each one – I’d say ‘My shoe isn’t here’. She would say ‘You’ve looked at hundreds of shoes today, you should be able to find one!!!’ Bless my mum! Sorry Mum! But none of those shoes *felt* right, and they didn’t match the shoe in my vision!

I’d often feel really guilty. How hard is it to find a pair of shoes? (Or chunk of crystal? Or bag? Or cutlery set?) Why am I so ‘picky’ – and *gasp* I’m so difficult!

I can count with my ten fingers the number of items I’ve chosen to invest in over the year of 2016. Each one I knew would greatly support me, my future & who I am committed to being. My closet is smaller, and every item is something that I *love* and cherish (and last way longer!). I can count the number of friends that I keep in touch with regularly, and they’re the most genuine and supportive people I know. We own less things, and each one is of quality and what I really really chose to have. More of this please! 😉

5 // Goals with SOUL + ALIGNMENT

The old way of setting goals for me: Think it up in my mind + infuse a little soul.

The new way of setting goals for me: Feeling in my body what is truly meant for me & my soul at this time + think up an action plan with my mind.

Such a simple shift – such a massive positive difference.

6 // Giving myself SPACE

I’m pretty driven. I can relate to being ambitious. I have lots of goals awaiting me. And I am also really prone to burn out/fatigue/feeling depleted. In fact, I was really burnt out in 2015 – so 2016 was the year of working more efficiently. (I even did a training call about this in late 2016 – register here for your free instant access).

My calendar today is filled with SPACE.
My weekends? Space.
My evenings? Space.
Space to rest, to dream, to receive, to create.

More creativity, more flow, and more ease as a result. :-)

7 // Be confident in the way you do ____________ (love, money, career, relationships, health, spirituality, etc.)

In 2016 I really learnt this: When I am confident with how I do something, I no longer feel triggered by others. I no longer feel the need to justify/defend, or feel conflicted internally about my own choices.

In 2016, I really *got* this on such a deep level. Such a theme about integration throughout the year!!

As inner peace was a BIG word for me for how I desired to feel in the year – it made so much sense that this came up! This lesson allowed me to relax and stay in my own power and do things MY OWN WAY. I didn’t feel any need to play keep up, compare. There was just PEACE. In feeling so at peace, I was able to create more of what I truly desired in the most easeful way.

8 // 100% in my own energy. 100% on my own path.

Oh 2016, you taught me so much about being 100% in my own energy. When I am fully in my own energy, focused on my own path, I just be/do/enjoy/create what I truly desire. Competition doesn’t exist, nor does fear/anxiety/paranoia.

I now know that when I am feeling off and unaligned, it’s mostly because I’m not 100% in my energy and on my own path. I’ve probably gone off to be in someone else’s energy, or let their energy occupy my energetic space. And all I got to do is to take my focus and loving attention back to me!

Noteworthy mentions: Some of my favourite experiences in 2016!

Swimming with sea turtles, Pangkor Laut Resort, peaceful prosperity throughout the year, canyoning in the Blue Mountains, recovering fully from burn out and fatigue, incredible 6 month package clients (and also clients that I’ve now been working with for over a year!), visiting mum and dad in KL (and feeling spoilt with food), working with my fantastic coach, the generosity I’ve received over the year, ocean swims, doggy cuddles and walks, new friends + old friends, and feeling really confident about how I do my own life.

How was 2016 for you?

What were you favourite – and BIG lessons of the year? I’d love to hear from you. ❤️

I’d also love to share a powerful process I use at the start of every year is my Visioning & Planning Process. Click here to download it for FREE!

Much love,
Jia Ni

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