Self-Coaching to Enhance Your Awareness

Posted on: April 16, 2015 Category: Coaching
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One of the reasons why I find coaching so powerful is because it assists us in diving deeper into our own awarenesses, making us more conscious about our actions (which in turn affects how we relate to the world around us and determines the quality of our life experience).

Did you know that you can use simple coaching tools on a daily basis to improve your self-awareness?

First … Let’s talk about the react-respond gap.

Have you had the experience when something in your experience sets off a reaction in you (or triggers you), and you find yourself putting forth a reaction that you know isn’t your best (of course, you find this out when you’ve calmed down and think about how you could’ve responded better — if only you had the awareness and time to think about it)!

Instead of responding elegantly, we find that we succumb to reacting and giving out a reflex response.

What can we do to respond more elegantly, instead of reacting to circumstances around us?

I have found implementing coaching tools in my life to be immensely transformative in lengthening my react-respond gap.

The knee-jerk responses that I used to have to people and situations (that ultimately eventuate into lose-lose scenarios) have considerably lessened, with most challenging situations now posing as huge growth and intimacy opportunities to bring me closer in my relationships with others, myself, and Life.

Six Tips to Enhance Your Self-Awareness

1. When something around you acts as a trigger, commit to taking a step back and having your own process — instead of feeling the need to react immediately.

Take as much time as you need to process what’s happening before responding.

This is an empowering (and self-loving) gesture as you are now choosing to respond consciously and deliberately, instead of reacting from a reflex of disempowerment/pressure.

2. Ask yourself WHY.

Why are you being triggered?

Why are you feeling (upset/disappointed/disconnected/etc.)?

When we start looking closely at what is triggering us and name it, we gain more perspective and understanding on ourselves. 

3. What is it really about?

I often find that what we initially think we are upset about isn’t what we’re really upset about!

Using this simple process of asking ‘okay, what is it that I’m actually upset about?’ helps us distill to the real issue — which we can then address instead of continually addressing a myriad of different ‘surface’ issues without getting down to the core of the trigger.

(For example, you might feel upset with your partner for not doing the dishes at the time he said he would … but upon further reflection realize you are actually upset with feeling unsupported at home with seemingly overwhelming tasks.)

Knowing that means you can now open up a conversation on what the core issue is to create real transformation and healing, instead of recreating scenarios that trigger you.

4. Put the focus on yourself and ask yourself ‘What do I require to shift this right now?’

When we are in a triggered state, it seems easier to start placing the focus outside ourselves. Instead of focusing on what we require to be happier, we start worrying about what others will think and what they would want.

By asking yourself what YOU require you put the focus back on yourself to find the solution.

Perhaps you require to distance yourself physically from the issue for some time, perhaps you require to open up an honest conversation, perhaps you require to adopt a different mindset and see things in a different light … whatever it is you require, only you can tap into it by allowing yourself the time and space to do so.

5. Have a mindset that your response is perfect, no matter how you choose to respond.

The WIN is in your ability to respond instead of react, and when you have done that and honoured your own process of choosing a CONSCIOUS response — you’ve won.

Let that be your measure of success!

6. “I am not here to be right — I am here to be happy“.

I also carry this reminder in the back of my mind everywhere I go, to remind myself that my goal above all is to be happy and it is safe for me to let go of the need to be ‘right’.

I have found these simple coaching tools to be immensely helpful on a daily basis in improving my connection with myself and others.

Try them out and let me know how you go!

JN x

A SPECIAL Coaching Opportunity

Posted on: April 15, 2015 Category: Coaching
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I have a very special coaching opportunity to share with you today!

I’ve opened up THREE spots for private coaching taster packages!! These are introductory packages designed for you to have a taste of working with me, and for you to experience the power of having a coach in creating transformation in areas of your life and business.


You are … Passionate about coaching and ready to take your business to the next level of success, a visionary with big dreams for your life and business, a woman ready to play bigger in all areas of her life.

You’re ready to … Translate your ideas and dreams into reality, create focus and clarity on your target market, copywriting, personal brand and business model so you can start working with your ideal clients creating transformation in their lives.

Now is YOUR time to … Launch and sell your coaching programs and packages, book your first high-end coaching clients and start making a difference, transform conditioned limiting beliefs into empowering belief systems that help you align and manifest your desires, and much more.

In this Coaching Taster Package, you’ll receive:
A welcome packet to fill out before we start
A bespoke 3-hour intensive to dive deep
Weekly private coaching sessions for a month (x4 sessions)
& Unlimited email support throughout!

The investment:

If this opportunity is speaking to you, click here to email me at for next steps!

Imagine what IS indeed available and possible for you to gain in a month. It IS possible for you to sign your first high-end client, for you to make more money doing what you love, for you to increase visibility and share your message (and impact) on a bigger scale. If I can do it, you can too!

The last time I offered these coaching taster packages they SOLD OUT in less than 24 hours!! Most of these women were (at the time) new to having a 1:1 coach, and were blown away by the incredible shifts and results they were able to tap into within just one month. :)

Are you ready?

Much love,
Jia Ni

P.S. There are only THREE spots available before they’re sold out again. As I have no plans to re-release these packages in the near future … if you’re feeling even a tingle in your heart that this is for you, be quick to take inspired action and say “YES” to this opportunity!

P.P.S. Prices for my private coaching programs are also increasing from May 1st onwards, so if you’ve been thinking about coaching with me — this is a great opportunity to get started and secure your spot at my current rate if you choose to continue working together. ;)